Why CHEAT?

It’s funny how often “forever” seems to never last.

We all make promises, of course. We tell people we love them, we care for them, we could never live without them, but most of the time it turns out to be nothing more than empty, wishful thinking.

Yet, we need to make these sorts of promises. People need to feel a level of security in their relationship in order to be happy – it’s human nature. But are we ever really secure?

There are a hundred ways to lose the one you love, to get your heart broken; however, none are worse than getting cheated on. Cheating is something I never condoned nor, to be honest, understood.

If you don’t care enough for the person you claim to love to keep it in your pants, then you may need to rethink how much you actually care about him or her.

Don’t give me any of that “I have needs” crap; we all have needs. The person you’re with has needs – he or she needs you to be loyal.

TO LET GO AND MOVE ON

Moving on should not be a risk but a challenge. It is when you decide to stay locked forever in the clutches of this foolish desire that you will stand the risk of falling in too deep, where you may never be able to get back and start over again.

There will come a time when we will have to give up someone we love so much, a time when we will have to shove our feelings aside and let our minds and not our hearts decide for us. don’t be afraid to lose love. When you do, it is simply not meant for you. If there was a time when you cried because you found love and lost it, there will also be a time when you can smile again. If you give yourself a chance to be happy you will experience that glowing feeling again and find the love that you can keep in your heart forever.

LOVE DOESN'T EXPECT ANYTHING IN RETURN

When we decide to love, we give our best to let the person know we mean our intentions. We invest our time, effort and emotions into a relationship which we hope would give us a decent return on our investment. But, does true love really work this way? Love, in its real sense is unconditional. We do not share this emotion to gain something in return. Love is a gift that we should give because we want to give it and not because we want to get something out of it. Love should be bestowed without conditions, without assumptions, without expectations.

SOME GOOD THINGS NEVER LAST

Many of us who have been left alone by someone we dearly loved still wallow in self-pity and incessantly ask ourselves where we went wrong. We waste our time searching for answers that may never be revealed to us. Why can’t we just accept that love doesn’t give us the license to own a person - that love doesn’t guarantee permanence. There are times when we just have to let go of someone who means the world to us not because we want to but because it is the right thing to do. We cannot force anyone to love us when they don’t want to love us anymore. We cannot beg someone to stay when he wants to leave and be with someone else. This is what love is all about. It is all about sacrifice. It is all about learning. It is all about accepting everything without holding anything back or throwing anything away. The end of love is not the end of life. It should be the beginning of understanding that love leaves for a reason. Love leaves with a lesson and it is only when we learn from it that we are able to earn the wisdom and the courage move on and find love again.

Cant sleeppppp :(

I honestly don't know how to begin this entry. Nafeel ko lang na gusto ko magsulat. hehe. Kanina pa kasi ako binu-bug ng nabasa ko about being selfless. And hindi ako mapakali ng hindi ngrereact.

According to my reliable source Wikipedia.com, "SELFLESS means the act of sacrificing ones own interest for the greater good."

Mismo. Precisely.

"Wala akong pakialam kung abutin ako ng habang buhay mahalin lang niya ako. Basta hanggang kaya ko, hindi ako bibitaw sa kanya."

Sa lesbian world, common ng maririnig ko to. May mga friends ako na ginagawa nilang lahat para mahalin sila ng tao na gusto nila. Bumaba man ang tingin ng ibang tao sa kanila, magmuka man silang nakakatawa. Kahit alam nila na pinagtatawanan sila behind their back. That's how they love and hindi naman ako against don kasi I respect them. Kahit naman ako pinagdaanan ko yung ganon. Trying hard magpakitang gilas sa tao na gusto ko, just for her to love me back. But how can you love a person na hindi manlang nakikitang nageexist ka? A person na hindi ka manlang naaapreciate? Na walang pakialam kung magcollapse ka man sa harap niya sa walang tigil na panunuyo mo sa kanya?

May mga nagssucceed sa pagttiyaga, OO. But there are some who is not fortunate of trying to win someone else's heart. Itry mo ng once, or twice yung panunuyo o pagihintay, eh okay lang. But yung tatlong beses na, apat na beses, o umabot man sa lima, eh hindi na yun tama. If you can't save your face dun sa taong nagreject sayo, try saving again, your DIGNITY.

One of the biggest misconceptions of happiness is the "I WILL BE HAPPY IF..." scenario. Those things do satisfy you but not for as long as you think because you will adapt to them and will crave for more. Stop spending so much time striving for a finish line because there is no such thing.

Losing someone may not be a loss at all but a blessing because someone and something better is yet to come.

Don't you think by pushing hard eh makukuha niyo yung tao na gustong gusto niyo? NO. Your just simply pushing them away pa. You don't have to make them hate you sa sobrang kakulitan. Believe in fate na someone will cross your way kahit hindi niyo ipagpilitan.

Sabi nga nila diba, if it hurts you so much, how can it possibly be the right thing for you? :D

IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE, WOULD YOU JUST KEEP IT TO YOURSELF OR LET THAT PERSON KNOW WHAT YOU FEEL INSIDE?

Marami akong nakikitang tao na inaaksaya ang pag kakataon para sabihin ang tunay na nararamdaman nila para sa mga taong mahal nila.

Nananaig ang takot at ito ang pumipigil para ipahiwatig nila yung nararamdaman nila

We are often misunderstood because our actions do not speak of what we truly feel inside.

Wala akong nakikitang dahilan para iwasan natin yung mga taong nagugustuhan o minamahal natin dahil kaibigan natin sila.

At wag mo sanang isipin na dahil babae ka ay hindi mo na pwedeng sabihin ang tunay na nararamdaman mo para sa kanya.

You are friends, and friends should be open and honest with each other.

Saying what you feel may not bring a miracle but it would definitely free you from this banding feeling.

Madalas ay nakakabuti ang pagiging tapat natin sa pagsasabi sa isang tao kung ano ang tunay na nararamdaman natin para sa kanila.

Wala akong nakikitang masama kung may nararamdaman ka man sa kaibigan mo.

It is what we do or what we do not do when we like a person.

Honesty is the best foundation would which beautiful friendships are made.

Its only when we speak what we feel that people truly understand us.

And when they do understands us, we do not have to worry about being right or about being wrong, because we know that we would be accepted for what we stand for but for the honesty that we have shown.

Wag ka matakot na magmahal muli at ipakita ito. Be honest about what you feel and just let time take you to where your heart truly belongs.

WOULD YOU GIVE YOUR EX A SECOND CHANCE EVEN IF HE/SHE HAS HURT YOU SEVERAL TIMES?

Wala akong nakikitang rason para bumitaw ka sa pagiging magkaibigan niyo.

Inspite of your bitter past with your ex.

Your friendship is the only one left for both of you, so why would you choose to let go? Minsan wala namang masamang maguluhan dahil parang naiinvolve ka nanaman sa ex mo. Pwera lang kung umaasa ka sa likod ng isipan mo na maaaring muling maging kayo sa isat isa.

Walang masama na magmalasakit sa isang tao na minsan ay minahal mo.

It is only when you expect something in return na maaaring masaktan ka ulet.

Just be glad that it is in you that he/she found his/her refuges.

Let this be the best time to show your ex that you still care for him/her and his/her happiness is also your happiness.

Remember if it is unselfish love that you will give, it is unselfish love that you will get.

Ito ang pwedeng maging daan para sa isang bago at magandang relasyon with your ex.

If it is not, just be thankful just the same because you have given a chance to show your ex that you have loved and been hurt but you have forgiven and loved again.

Sometimes we love so much that we failed to realize that we are already choking our relationships.

Hindi natin pwedeng angkinin ang mga taong mahal natin, we just have to love them and give them the freedom and space to make choices in their lives.

All we have to do is let them know that when they fall, lagi tayong andun para dumamay at sagipin sila.

When we fail in our relationships, we ask ourselves “ano ba ang nangyare? what went wrong?”

There are times when there was nothing wrong, sometimes love just naturally fades away and this happens for people or a simply not meant for each other.

Alam ko na minsan ay mahirap intindihin kung bakit lumilihis ang mga bagay na hindi natin inaasahan, pero hindi natin ito maiwasan mangyare.

People we treasure are taking away from us for a reason.

Sometimes we have to stop asking why and just accept our faith.

We should stop being bitter and just be thankful that for once we have loved and shared our life with that person who you made beautiful memories with together.

Itong pag tanggap na ito, would give us the courage to move on and make us realize that when god takes away something from us, he doesn’t mean to hurt us.

He takes it away because he wants us to have something better

WOULD YOU CONTINUE TO LOVE SOMEONE EVEN IF YOU KNOW THAT IT'S WRONG TO LOVE THAT PERSON?

there comes a time when the only way to love a person, is not to love him/her at all.
but as many would say true love will always have a way of working its way back into our hearts, no matter how long it has gone, or how far it has gone.


may puwang ka man sa puso niya, pero hindi sa buhay niya. this is the sad fact; no matter how much love there is left in your hearts, we will still have to be bound by reason and principle.


not all fairy tales have happy endings.let us always remember that no matter how long we have waited and failed, there will always have someone out there who will love us the way we wanted to be loved.


there's always someone out there who we can walk with and share our joys with.


naniniwala ako na may nakalaan na tao para satin. all we have to do is believe that there is and give ourselves a chance to find that person.

HOW DO YOU TEACH YOUR HEART TO FORGET THE ONE YOU TRULY LOVE WHEN YOU ARE ALREADY COMMITTED TO SOMEONE ELSE?

minsan nakakagawa ako ng isang blogs/notes hindi lang dahil masaya ako o nasasaktan ako. minsan nakakagawa ako neto dahil na iinspire ako ng ibang tao. naiinspire ako sa mga napagdaanan/napapagdaanan nila sa buhay.

itong ginawa ko ngayon ay para sa isang taong malapit sakin. hindi lang basta malapit,

itong taong to ang isa sa mga naging sandalan ko ng mga panahong kailangan ko ng kaibigan. anyhoo, you might find this blog a bit boring (siguro to those who can’t relate on this blog, i guess? Hehe)

HERE:

I have always believed that everything that happens in our lives, good or bad, they happen for a reason.

Pinahihintulutan ni god na mangyare ang mga bagay na ito hindi para saktan tayo, kundi para imulat ang mga mata natin sa tamang daan na dapat nating tahakin.

Hindi niya ito ginagawa para pahinain niya ang loob natin, kundi para patatagin natin ang pananalig natin sa kanya.

You have shared the beautiful relationship with her.

Lubos ang pagtitiwala at pagmamahal niyo sa isat isa kaya naman napanatili niyong matibay ang ilang taon niyong relasyon.

Pero nung kinailangan mo ng pumili na pakasalan ang isang tao o ituloy ang relasyon mo sa isa ay nahirapan ka, dahil mas binigyan mo ng pagpapahalaga ang mga pangarap mo at ng pamilya mo kesa sa kanya.

I believed in honesty in relationships. Naging tapat ka sa kanya sa lahat ng bagay at hindi dahil sa pumayag siyang magpakasal ka ay ibig sabihin neto ay sang ayon siya sa gagawin mo.

Pumayag siya kasi mahal ka niya, at gusto niyang matupad mo ang mga pangarap mo, kahit parang hinihiwa ang puso niya sa pagpapakasal mo sa isang tao na alam naman niyang mas mahal mo siya.

Ayokong sabhin sayo that you married him for the wrong reason, dahil ginawa mo lang ito para maiayos ang istado niyo.

Ayoko rin namang sabihin sayo na dapat yung isa ang pinili mo, dahil alam naman natin na dapat hindi ito ang dapat mong gawin.

God allowed this to happend to make you realize that you should love the one you are with and stop thinking of someone who should be happy without you.

Forgive yourself for hurting her, at patawarin mo narin siya sa mga iginanti niya sayo.

Hindi ito ang panahon para sisihin ang isat isa, o isumbat kung ano ang dapat mangyare.

This happened because you are destined to be with your husband and she’s destined to be happy with her own girl.

Kung ano man ang nakalipas sa inyo, ay iwanan mo nalang sa nakalipas.

Love your husband and be faithful to him. Give your heart to him and to him alone.

Hayaan mong tulungan ka ng panahon para pagalingin ang sakit ng pagkakalayo niyong dalawa.

Trust at god has he’s own plans for her and she would find her own happiness even without you. And god will heal your own brokenness.

The pain that you’re feeling right now, will make you a better person.

Let the love you lost in her, grow a hundred fold in your marriage with him.

Time will heal the wounds of your heart, and in time you will remember her with the smile in your face and you would be thankful because you know you are where you should truly be, with the man who loves you, and the man you’re destined to love and to be with for the rest of your life.

HOW DO YOU MOVE ON AND TRULY LET GO?

It’s true that acceptance is the first step to moving on. But I have always believed that we can never forget the person we love.

You must have accepted that she/he doesn’t love you anymore. But have you really ask yourself, if you feel the same way?

I guess you really haven’t gotten over your feelings for her/him.

Your love is the chain that keeps you bound to your past.

At habang andun yung pagmamahal na yon, na umaapoy sa puso mo, ay hindi mo makakalimutan yung taong yon.

It’s true that the acceptance is the first step, and acceptance will put one foot forward to the road of recovery. But the only way to move on completely is to get the other foot out from the love that binds your heart to her/him.

Sa tuwing umiiyak ka pag naaalala mo siya, ay dinadagdagan mo ang baga ng apoy sa puso mo.

Tuwing nalulungkot ka at naiisip mo yung mga masasayang sandali na pinagsamahan niyo, ay lalo mong dinadagdagan ang apoy.

As long as that there’s, that emotion, that fire burning inside your heart, you will never be at peace with yourself.

Marami sa atin ang merong mga nakalipas, that reminds us of the beautiful memories that we wish would come back to life.

But the difference between those who have found real happiness, and those who are tirelessly searching for it, lies in their ability to stop living in their past and wishing for things that could have been.

Ang tunay na masasayang tao, ay yung mga taong tinanggap na ang hatol ng nakaraan at pinatawad na ang mga sarili nila sa pagiging bahagi neto.

Kapag tayo ay nagmahal at nabigo, we have to greed for a while and then learn to stop loving that person.

Only when we are able to do that, can we open our hearts a new and learn to love again without having to be burden by the guilt and the regrets of the past

DONT BE TOO SELFISH

Minsan tinatanong natin ang mga sarili natin, why do we meet the people of the wrong time? And why do we fall in love with them for the wrong reasons? Bakit kailangan mawala ang pagmamahal natin sa isang taong nagmamahal satin?

These are questions we probably will never find answers to.

Alam mo lahat ng relasyon ay laging may pinagdadaanang pagsubok, dahil ito lang ang paraan para patatagin ito.

Unfortunately,those who have built their roots on shallow browns ay mahilig at malimit nahuhulog at nadarapa.

They probably do not love enough to able to hold on, kung minsan naman ay sadyang mahina lang sila sa tukso.

Pag may pagpapahalaga tayo sa damdamin ng isang tao ay dapat iwasan nating gumawa ng mga bagay na makakasakit sa damdamin nila.

When we are passionately and romantically in love with another person, minsan nagiging selfish tayo at pansarili lang natin ang ating iniisip. Wala tayong pakielam kahit alam nating may ibang tao tayong sinsaktan.

There are married man who jump into the opportunity of a having an affair with women na willing makipag relasyon kahit na sila ay mistress o kabit lang.

I know how it feels, alam ng iba sa atin yung pakiramdam kapag nasa gantong sitwasyon, pero hindi natin sila pwedeng sisihin sa pinasok nilang sitwasyon.

Pero para sakin hindi na kailngan ituloy pa yung pakikipag relasyon sa iba habang committed ka. There is no point. Your love for that person was tested to the limits, and you have failed it. Hindi dahil sa ginusto mo, but probably because it was just not meant to happen.

Walang pwedeng mag wagi sa “love triangle”, may makakasakit at may masasaktan.

You just have to be honest with your partner, even if the truth will hurt him/her, and even if you lose him/her forever.

Subukan mong ilagay ang sarili mo sa lugar ng  nasaktan/niloloko ng partner, maniwala ka, you will never find the words to express the pain at ipagdadasal mo na wag sanang mangyari sayo yon.

Life is what we make it. Ang mga bagay na gagawin natin ngayon ang maghahatol sa uri ng buhay na magkakaron tayo bukas.

Sa mga sandaling ito ay wag lang sana puso ang pairalin natin.

Hindi tayo tunay na magiging masaya kung ang kapalit neto ay pagdurusa ng ibang tao.

I pray and I hope that one day makita mo ang taong nararapat  para sayo sa isang pagmamahalan na walang sinasaktan, sa isang samahan na patas at walang tinatapakan.

Sa isang pag ibig na tunay at hindi makasarili.

DONT EXPECT TOO MUCH

Hindi masakit magpakita ng pagmamahal at pagtingin sa isang tao, ang masakit ay kapag naghintay tayo ng kapalit na pagmamahal at pag tingin na hindi naman niya maibibigay satin.

Not because someone has failed us in love means we are a failure. The only person who can break you is yourself.

That feeling of defeat is only in your mind, you are not broken, and you will not crippled for life.

Sa paglipas ng panahon lahat ng sugat ng pagmamahal ay gumagaling ng kusa.

Yung mga ayaw lang bumitaw ang nagiisip na wala na silang makikitang makakapalit sa taong minamahal nila.

Maybe they cannot find someone to take their place, but they can definitely find someone who deserves their love.

Kapag sobrang inlove tayo sa isang tao ay binibigyan natin ng kahulugan ang bawat kilos nila, pinaniniwala natin ang ating mga sarili na may gusto rin sila satin at iba ang binibigay na atensyon satin, pero sa taong yon kaibigan lang pala ang pagtingin satin.

Action speaks louder than words, but when there are no words, actions can mean a thousand meanings and we can always misinterpret them.

If she/he never said I love you, then maybe she/he never really did feels something deeper than friendship. A touch, a hug, and embrace doesn’t always spell love in a romantic sense. It could just be an expression of longing and caring for someone.

Totally different from real love

You have made up a world we’re she/he loved you the way you loved her/him.

But it is a world that existed only in your mind. You have to be true to yourself and find your place in this real world.

You have to believe that you can stand up again because there is a reason to.

Nagmahal ka at nasaktan pero hindi dapat tumigil ang mundo mo dito.

Everyone deserves to be happy. Everyone deserves to be loved.

KELAN BA PWEDENG MAGING TAMA ANG ISANG BAGAY NA BAWAL?

Ang pinaka mahirap hilingin sa sarili natin na gawin ay ang iwanan at talikuran ang taong minamahal natin. Even if we are suffering in pain, our love will always have its way of making up for all the hurt.

It’s true that love can be very very stubborn, hindi ito nakikinig sa tamang paliwanag, nakikipag talo ito kung ano ang mali at tama, pero sinusunod lamang ng bulag na pag ibig ay kung ano lang ang gusto ng puso neto. At minsan ang gusto natin ay hindi tama.

Love can go against the world na walang pakielam sa anuman ang kahihitnan neto.

Remember the kind of life we live is based on the choices we make today.

Our happiness is a product of how selfless or how selfish we have been in making these choices.

Lagi kong sinasabi na hndi masama ang magmahal sa isang tao, pero pag ang damdaming ito ay lumagpas na sa guhit ng kung ano ang tama at nararapat, then this love becomes the consuming passion that lessens our chances of finding true peace and happiness.

hindi magtatagal darating ang panahon na ang maniniwala nalang sa pinaglalaban mo ay ang iyong sarili at wala ng iba.

I honestly believe that you deserve to be happy in the arms of a person who would love you and you alone.

HOW DO WE MOVE ON IF THE ONE WE TRULY LOVE DOESNT LOVE US ANYMORE?

Pano nga ba ang gagawin natin kung ang taong mahal natin ay ayaw na satin at hindi na tayo mahal?

Alam ko kung gaano kasakit kapag iniwan tayo ng taong mahal natin. Minsan sobrang sakit gusto na natin mamatay, pero alam mo kahit gaano kasakit ang ginawa sa atin, o gaano kalungkot ang buhay natin ay walang tamang dahilan para magisip tayo na saktan ang sarili natin, o mag isip ng mga bagay na hindi maganda.

Maraming tao ang hindi nila naiisip na para mahalin sila ng iba, kailangan muna nilang isipin na dapat mahalin nila ang kanilang mga sarili.

It is sad to think that sometimes there are some who will realize this too late.

People do irrational things when someone they sincerely love purposely hurt them.

Pag sinaktan tayo ng taong mahal natin kung ano ano ang naiisip nating gawin. Minsan ay lihis na sa tama at wala na sa tamang katwiran

Kung ano man ang gawin natin ay hindi na makakapag pabalik sa kanila.

This doesn’t change anything. Nor does it make a difference for those who dont care about us.

Ginagawa lang nating biktima ang ating mga sarili, ng ating pagiging desperado at nahuhulog tayo sa balon ng ating kalungkutan.

You have cried enough. Wag mo na sana sayangin ang mga luha mo. The person you are shedding your tears, don’t deserve it. Be strong and don’t allow failure to take away your hope and finding happiness in your life.

Alam mo may dahilan kung bakit pinapahintulutan ni god na mangyari ang bagay na to sa buhay natin. They maybe painful but they are all meant to make you stronger and a better person.

There is life even after several failed relationships. There is hope even if all your efforts in finding the right person have failed.

Be strong in your faith, because good things come to those who believe and strive to be happy inspite of the pain that lingers in their hearts. Love yourself and love will find you.

Lagi natin tatandaan na ang pagsubok ay siyang nakakapag patibay ng pagka tao natin, ito ang nagbibigay satin ng lakas para harapin ang bukas ng may pag asa at paniniwala na may tunay na tao na magmamahal satin sa kabila ng lahat ng kabiguan na pinagdaanan natin sa ating buhay.

FORGIVE AND FORGET

Kapag tayo’y sinaktan ng taong mahal natin, yung sakit na dulot neto ay tumutusok sa ka- loob looban ng puso natin, we are ranged with hatred, and harbour nothing but anger, ang nakakalungkot dito ay pag nawala na yung galit, ang pumapalit naman ay yung pride natin.

Sometimes a hurt ego takes a lifetime longer to heal. And this usually gets in the way of a peaceful reconciliation if our efforts would lead to it at all.

Kalimitan ay nahihirapan tayo dahil ang nangingibabaw satin ay pride, kasi lubusan kang nasaktan at ang puso nating puno ng galit.

Pwedeng  habang buhay mong sisihin yung taong minahal mo na nakasakit sayo, but that wouldn’t change anything anymore.

Walang anumang pagsisisi ang maaaring makapagbalik ng nakalipas at makapag bigay sayo ng kapangyarihan at kakayahan para baguhin ang nakaraan.

You can never find rest, until you finally let go of the hatred in your heart.

Don’t live all your life cursing that person for hurting you. Kung sinabi na niya sayo ang totoo, at humingi na siya ng tawad sayo, ibaon mo na sana sa limot ang nakaraan at turuan mo ang puso mo na  magpatawad.

Remember, there is no perfect partner. Kahit na maingat na tao ay nadadapa din sa maliit na bato.

If you still love that person, then don’t be too hard on him/her, I think its just fair to give him/her another chance, para patunayan niya sayo na ikaw talaga ang mahal niya at pinagsisisihan niya ang nagawa niya sayo.

We can only appreciate the beauty of a rose when we hold it, and just like this flower, there is no relationship so beautiful that we can have without the price.

Ang lahat ng mga taong nagmamahal ay laging dumadaan sa pagsubok ng panahon. Love will always have a way of putting us to the test.

You may never be given this chance again, lagi natin tandaan na kung hindi tayo magpapatwad, ay hindi tayo magiging masaya. Dahil habambuhay mananatili ang puso natin na puno ng galit at pagsisisi.

Kung hindi tayo muling magtitiwala ay hindi tayo matututong magmahal muli.

We will get hurt by the people we love, but love always forgives. And the real meaning of this feeling is being able to continue to love a person at times when we cannot find the reason to love him/her anymore.

WHAT TRUE LOVE MEANS

Love isn’t when you can’t sleep … it’s when you want to keep your eyes open…

Love isn’t when you keep holding on … it’s when you learn to let go …

Love isn’t when you kill yourself with jealousy … it’s when you understand …

Love isn’t’ when you fall for someone … it’s when you catch that person when she falls…

Love isn’t when you see her everywhere … it’s when you close your eyes and she is still there …Love isn’t when you tell her what you feel … it’s when you give

Everything for her sake…And Love isn’t when you think you were blind … it’s when you know she was wrong but you didn’t mind!

PAST IS PAST

Minsan hindi dapat tayo sobrang bitter sa mga ex natin. Palagi silang may puwang sa puso natin, kumbaga peklat na hindi na matanggal kahit na gamitan pa ng anumang ointment na nagkalat diyan. 

Yan na yan eh, andyan na yan. Nangyari na ang mga hindi inaasahan. Hindi dapat sila dapat siraan. Gusto mo bang iparating sa tao na nagmahal ka ng isang walang kwentang tao? Eh in the first place minahal mo naman ito? 

Dapat yung galit sa kanila/kanya binabawasan mo na. Siguro napakadaling sabihin nito dahil ibat-iba naman tayo ng karanasan kung paano tayo iniwan, paano tayo nang-iwan. Masaya man ibalik ang mga nakaraan pero andun na tayo sa puntong kailangan ng paghilumin ang mga sugat. Hindi pa huli ang lahat para maging magkaibigan. 

Minsan, hanapin natin yung positive side ng break-ups. Andun yung part na minsan sa buhay natin natuto tayong lumaban, natuto tayong ipaglaban yung ating mga nararamdaman. Natuto tayo mag reason out kung ano sa tingin natin ay tama. At higit sa lahat, nagkaroon ka ng tiyansa na ayusin ang isang naghihingalong relasyon.

After ng lahat ng yan.. Yung mga nararanasan mong sakit sa mga relasyon mong nawala? Magagamit mo in the future yan eh. Mas matalino, mas mapagmahal, mas mature way of pag-iisip kapag nasa relasyon at napakarami pang iba.

Kaya oras na. Para paghilumin. At tanggapin na ang lahat ng bagay na nangyayari sa atin…ay may dahilan. 

ALLOW YOUR PARTNER THE SPACE TO BE THEMSELVES

Its a funny old thing but we often fall in love with someone because they are independent, forceful, powerful, in charge, in control and very much out in the world. Then, the second we've captured them, so to speak, we try to change them. We come over all jealous if they carry on being as independent; as if being in a relationship with us somehow limits them, ties them down. cuts their wings off.


Before we met them, they managed quite well without us. the second we meet them, we start giving them advice, restricting their choices, limiting their vision and dreams, curtailing their freedom. We need to stand back and give them the freedom to be themselves.


A lot of people say that the magic of their relationship has worn off, that there is no sparkle there any more and that they have grown apart. And then when you look into it a bit more deeply you find two people locked in a symbiotic relationship of mistrust, oppression and niggling encroachment. They don't give each other any space at all, let alone space to be themselves.


So what can we do? firstly stand back and see your partner as they were when you first met them. What attracted you?
What was special about them? What turned you on?


Now look at them. What is different? What has gone and what has been replaced?  Are they still the same independent person or have you eroded their space, confidence, independence, vitality? Maybe no, that seems a bit harsh, but unconsciously we do tend to rein them in a bit and they do lose their sparkle.


You have to encourage them to step up outside of the cosiness of the relationship and rediscover their energy and vitality.
They may need to spend some time rediscovering their talents and skills at independence. And you may need to sit on your hands at times to avoid reining them in again. So encourage, stand back, sit on your hands, push and be there, tall order, Most successful relationships have an element, and a big one, of independence. The couple spent time apart to bring something back to the relationship with them. This is healthy. This is good. This is grown-up.

IF ONLY I COULD WRITE A SONG

It's been awhile since my last note.

I am sitting here in my room and writing this notes hoping you will get to read it when you come back from work later and in case you are going online.

I sometimes write poems, and when i read them later, i realize they were about you.

You have inspired me to write more, to love more, to be more patient and to forgive.

all these years, i have never stopped thinking about you. you are always in the back of my mind. even if you didn’t feel the same, i know that i loved you.

This love I have for you – it’s hard to describe, yet easy to feel. It’s difficult to convey save for the actions of every day life. I don’t know how to tell you that I love you without making you uncomfortable or scaring you away.

I don’t love you because I need to be in a relationship, or because I’m lonely. I love you because of who you are… because you are the exact person I have been looking for. Because I love each moment I get to spend with you. Because to me you are so beautiful in every way possible! 

Because just the thought of you makes me happy. 

I didn’t expect to fall for you. It wasn’t love at first sight. But as we talked, things fell into place. Little by litte, the small bits that make you peaked my interest.

So many times I thought life is so unfair. I know there are reasons why we can't be together. Reasons that God only knows, but this will not be the reason for me to forget you. You really know how much I love you and care for you but there is nothing I can do more. Even though we're apart, this will not be the end of our communication. You are the best thing that ever happened in my whole, entire, damn life. 

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Thank you also, for all the late night talks we had.

There was always some­thing about the way you listened that made me feel like the only per­son in the world. 

Do you know what it is like to look up into the velvet night sky, and yet not see the stars? Do you know what it is like to see the song birds sing their sweet music, and yet not hear their sound? Do you know what it is like to feel your heart inside you, and yet not feel it beat? Do you know what it is like to be in a crowd of people smiling, laughing, sharing their love together, and yet be all alone with no one around? Do you know what it is like when the light of your life has been extinguished, and you are left in absolute and complete darkness, frightened and alone? Do you know what it is like when the one you love so deeply and dearly is so far away? Your heart cries out their name and yet there is no reply.

Their absence brings with it frustration and sadness. You curse God that you cannot be with the one you love, and yet you thank him completely for bringing that person into your life, all the while knowing that no amount of dreams and hopes and prayers, can, at once, change the situation - the situation that is in the hands of the God that you curse.

To  love somebody truly who does not love you back is to die a little every day. 

How is it that love can be so wonderful, and yet hurt so badly?

So, what do you do in such times? How do you keep your wits about you? How do you maintain some semblance of normal life, when all you can do is think about is the person that you are so in love with and that you would do or give anything just to be with? You feel lost somewhere between the cruel reality of life, and the dream-like fairytale that you wish to live in, and the only salvation is to be found in the arms of your beloved and that cannot happen.

Friends cannot comfort your soul. Thoughts only make the pain in your heart worse. What do you do? You think about them -how you think about them endlessly! You pray to God for the strength to see it through this situation, knowing that someday you will be with that person forever. But is that enough? No. Not always. Until you are in their arms, nothing really helps.

The mind is a whirlwind as your thoughts are tossed around like matchsticks in the wind. But the one thought that is all constant and eats away at the core of my soul is a simple one: "When will I hear from you again? Will I ever hear from you again?" Such silly thoughts are these. But time can cause such thoughts to occur. It is only human. I am only human.

And so, I wait. For how long? Only time and God can tell. And as I wait it seems as though the hands of the clock move in reverse instead of forward. Each second that passes seems as an eternity away from you. Time takes you further away from me instead of bringing you closer, and time is something that is beyond our control.

To be an angel, and have wings that I may fly into your arms at this very second. To feel your warm embrace. To love you, to have the pain of needing you. 

there is an old saying that applies to being away from something. It goes, "Out of sight...out of mind." But, every "old saying" has an opposite meaning. In this old saying it is also said, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder," and just when I think it is not possible to be more in love with you, a second ticks off the clock, and I discover that I am more in love with you then ever before.

I am listening to some loves songs. Although I don't understand the words because the songs are in Chinese, but I know that it is about love and that I like it a lot. Just like love, I really don't understand how it works but all I know is that the love I have for you is just like the Chinese songs I am listening to now. It really sounds so nice to me but I don't know what it means.  I know that my life is much happier when you're around me and that my life is filled with songs.

If I knew how to write a song, i’d write one everyday, it would say that I’m in love with you and why I feel this way.

I know how much I love you, if only I could write a song.

You’re my comfort when I’m lonely, you’re my peace when I need rest, of all the women I've known

I must rate you the best.

God bless

rean

REBLOGGED

Pano nga ba magmove on? Pano nga ba kayanin ng wala na yung taong mahal natin? Wag mo kayang madaliin yan. Parang pag-ibig lang din naman yan eh, hinay hinay lang para makarating ka dun ng maayos, ng maganda. Mas okay yung wala kang kasama sa pagmomove-on. Yung rebound ba? Wag ganun. Dapat kayanin mo ng mag-isa 'to. Yung pagmomove-on, isang journey din yan. Isang bahagi ng buhay mo na pwedeng makapagpabago sayo. Yung mga perspectives mo, mga pananaw mo... Hindi man lahat mag-iiba pero may bahagi na mag-iiba. Aminin mo man o hindi. Darating ka din sa punto na pag nagmahal ka ulit tapos hindi mo na magagawa yung mga bagay bagay na nagagawa mo dati. Bakit? Kasi takot ka na. Kasi para di ka na masaktan ng sobra. Wag ganun. Dapat pag nakamove-on ka na, iwan mo na lahat. Oo, hindi madali yun. Kaya nga, wag ka agad-agad maghanap ng makakasama mo habang nagmomove-on, eh para makayanan mo lahat ng mga bagay bagay.




Ang pagmomove-on ay mangyayare lang yan pag tinulungan mo sarili mo. Isipin mo na lang ha, ilang taon pa lang ba para magmukmok diyan? Para isipin na katapusan na ng mundo dahil iniwan ka niya? Haba haba pa ng buhay mo para pag-aksayahan ng panahon ang mga bagay bagay na di worth it. Madaming taong nagmamahal sayo at ni-katiting hindi mo kailangan ng lalake/babae para sumaya. Tingin ka sa paligid mo, ang daming rason para sumaya no? Hindi mo lang makita kita kasi iba yung hinahanap hanap mo. Oo, mas masaya pag meron kang girlfriend o boyfriend pero habang wala pa, habang wala na... Magpakasaya ka na muna sa mga taong nasa paligid mo. Higit sa lahat, hindi ibibigay sayo ng Diyos yan kung hindi ka niya bibigyan ng mas better. Mas okay yung plano ni God kesa sa gusto mo. Mga nararanasan mo ngayon, lilipas din lahat yan. Hinay hinay lang ha. Enjoy mo muna lahat ng meron ka ngayon. 




"People aren't always going to be there for you. That's why you need to handle things on your own."




"Maybe you have to know the darkness before you can appreciate the light." -- Madeline L'Engle 

DONT ASK ME NOT TO LOVE YOU

If I can only succeed in making you happy — I will have succeeded in the biggest and most difficult thing there is — that is to make one person completely happy. Your happiness means my happiness.


the most important thing is that when one has a loving friend like you becoming a life partner, what can be greater than that?
Your sweet talks and your lovely smile has added the spice in my life which has been tasteless all the while.
You know not what all I can truly promise you. I love you like no other woman on earth


We just had a talk and the very next instance I feel like writing you. This itself shows how much I do miss you. I can’t be away from you for a second.


When I'm with you things are different, i can smile and actually mean it.
I think of what I've done to myself, i tell myself I'm going to stop, but I can't, because when your not there it feels so wrong, when your not round it's my only escape.
If only you knew,  knew what you do, you keep me sane, yet drive me insane.
You are the lady luck in my life at all times. I feel that I can earn any amount of wealth when I win your love. I assure you that I will love you forever in the future, as I love you now. I will not change my mind. My body and mind is reserved for you. There is no place for others to dwell in my heart except you.You are the loving companion I always wanted and adored in my life.


I'm not begging you to love me. I'm not really even asking you. but isn't it alright if i cherish that hope in my heart?
if i dream of just holding your hand, it will hurt me-- not you.
i will try to keep my eyes from shining when they see you, and i promise i will not try to smile a special smile when you say hello.
but please, don't ask me not to love you. :(